The Unspoken Side Of Long Term Relationships Revealed In 30 Brutally Honest Illustrations
Love is in the small things. And Los Angeles-based artist Amanda Oleander captures these cute couple moments in her illustrations. Drawing inspiration from her own romantic relationship and collecting memories from people close to her, Amanda perfectly shows in her relationship comics what love looks like when no one's watching.
Amanda is currently dating Joey Rudman. "[He] ends up drawn in most of my adult cartoons," she told Bored Panda. "We have been together for almost three years. He's the sweetest man I've ever met." The artist describes the bond between them as pure magic. "Before I met Joey if anyone told me their love and relationship was like ours I wouldn't believe it. It's nothing less than amazing. We can't get enough of each other."
"I'm enthralled by the way people behave behind closed doors, intimate moments with their significant others we never get to see. Those are moments that can’t be documented because if they were, it would alter the way the person behaved. So I draw them."
Oleander claims that each of her cute cartoons is inspired by a different concept. "I do wish that viewers take with them a sense of confidence and appreciation for the simple moments in life."
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My husband always takes my ponytail holder out when I come to bed. He enjoys the tangle I guess.
Nothing's worse than when he props himself up on his elbow to reposition, on your hair. Not all screams from the bedroom are of delight.
I too also wear a pony tail to bed! I don't like it around my neck! Great pics, Amanda!! <3
"Even a woman who is pure in heart and says her prayers by night may become a wolf when the wolfbane blooms and the autumn moon is bright."
Natural girls, unite! (Okay, it's really that I'm lazy and he doesn't care but still...)
Nope, mustache makes it better. And stubble is not s
Load More Replies...Natural or no, no matter how much I leave my body be I'll never get the dark coarse hairs on my butt and back. That's probably a medical condition.
Yesssss i cant be hugging, meat is getting burned!!! Cooking and hugging doesnt match
Load More Replies...I envy women with husbands who do this, mine has never given me a surprise hug. Random affection; it seems women who get it all the time don't want it so much, and women who don't get it, would give anything to have it.
TheKnightOwl My boyfriend does that from time to time, and I think it's precious, I love it. I enjoy cooking, he doesn't, so I cook and he does the dishes. And I think him giving me surprise hugs when I'm cooking is kind of his way of saying that he appreciates it.
Load More Replies...Grooming behaviors, people. Way back when we used to pull lice out of each other's hair. LOL!!
Stop doing this. Seriously. Broke up with my girlfriend, my skin healed. I get a pimple once in a while, but they go away in a few days. Met her a few days ago, immediately she pops one, and it persists. It have been three days already and it is still red. Just stop doing this. Please. Have mercy.
Load More Replies...I have a five month old and this one is quite true to life, down to the pumping equipment and the mess of clothes. I adore the tiny hearts floating above the parents. This is so sweet.
He's looking at her with a little heart and she's looking at the baby with her little heart...
Load More Replies...I tried to read once while nursing my daughter. She noticed, BIT me, and grinned when I looked at her in surprise. She always had my full attention after that.
'And my wife says she has so much to do when our baby was born". "Then why do I feel like c**p?".
Anyone paying attention to the discarded pants on the floor with the underwear still in them??? This is classic!
Probably not a good idea to date someone who has been infected with the alien from John Carpenter's, The Thing.
It's the other way around for us, I melt my husband, I can only hug him and snuggle him for like ten minutes before he's too hot and wiggles away
Maybe I understand now all the twin bed thing in the old movies... LOL
Guys, if your girl is in the room and half naked, put the game down. Her game is much more fun!
I dont even spend time on my game when my gf is around
Load More Replies...Promised her a romantic night, but THE WHOLE SQUAD IS ONLINE THO! :0
Well, she even shaved the winter fur and put on a sexy underwear, so his game can wait.
Load More Replies...Is she tired of home playing video games, or does she want/need something? Or both I guess.
Tbh me and my bf used end up playing together and he dragged me away
My hubby asks 'what is this here, no over more, yeah, what is that, I can't get it'.
i remember doing this for my mrs, but i got frustrated with the rubbish brush they give ya, so I used one of my artist ones instead, much better job!
Wow, I've never thought of that! Indeed the brush is terrible. But I can't paint anyway (not even nails), so I don't think I should blame my tools.
Load More Replies...my husband use to trim my Hooha when I was pregnant!! good times... NOT!!!
Oh my gosh--mine too! I thought I was the only one!!
Load More Replies...Wish my hubby did things like this when I was pregnant twice... not even a foot rub
I hear you. Two pregnancies and barely even made me a cup of tea.
Load More Replies...I asked my husband trim my toenails while I was pregnant and couldn't reach them anymore.
My husband didn't touch me at all while I was pregnant. Unfortunate because I felt beautiful when pregnant.
Nope this is wrong. The dog always is in the middle so I can't touch my wife.
Absolutely. And the little s**t will scoot hubby to the EDGE of the bed to prevent him from being able to touch me. We think it's funny, she's 14 now and we're making sure she's as happy as she can possibly be the rest of the time we get to have with her. (She's healthy. But 14 is a little old lady dog.)
Load More Replies...Mine is so jealous that she needs to be in between us and if that doesn’t work she continuously licks my husbands face or balding head until he moves 😝
We sleep with one possessive cat who is in love with my husband and one overweighted diva cat that believes that our bed is her property
Except the dog goes between the people on the bed, and takes up the majority of space
This is sweet but the dog is usually between us, with his legs straight out in my back.
Is your username from Homestar Runner the Strong Bad email when he's reading the children's book but scribbled on it to make the page say "no two people are not on fire." If not I just wasted a lot of typing hahaha
Load More Replies...I always wondered why everybody wanted to have morning kisses, knowing that the they have a bad breathe.
Brush your teeth with a sonic toothbrush and scrape your tongue with a tongue scraper and your mouth will be clean all night and even in the morning. And no tooth decay!
Load More Replies...my son use to say about his daddy's breath; his words stinks in the morning... !! =0)
Morning glory loses it's spark if you have to go brush your teeth first. When you're really into someone, morning breath hardly matters.
As long as they are equally yukky. Sadly, one is usually more devastating than the other, (my ex could knock a vulture off a pile of c**p from 20 paces), mine only 10 paces
Load More Replies...Ewwwww...no, not before brushing or at least swishing with mouthwash.
Why is your sister kissing you with morning breath? ;)
Load More Replies...What's worse is when one of them is on the bed with you, but stays far away. He doesn't want to interrupt. Just wants to watch. And then you REALIZE he's watching. So then, it's like "hey, this is REALLY nice...but kind of creepy. But I don't want to STOP the nice for the creepy..."
It's for protection against scaling hot water...
Load More Replies...Omg I have got that same black lines covering my private places! That's a relief, I thought I was the only one...
He's probably horrified by the black bars that keep appearing on the BP posts today!
He's freezing! She's under the water and he's got nothing! Haven't you ever showered with someone? Happens every time! One gets screwed while the other washes their hair or whatever.
He's not coveting the water. He's terrified of it. Its boiling hot, and she loves it.
Load More Replies...my bf uses hot water that there's so much steam i can't breath.. and when we finish showering, i walk out into cold air happily, i like cold air after warm (hot) shower and he shakes with cold... it's hard to take a shower together lol
My wife and I are just the different I love hot showers she loves cold ones will freeze me out
I'm single & sleep on the 6" of the left hand side of my king size bed. Why?
In Winters, I always got crowded to the edge. My late wife behind or beside me and our dog between my legs or right at the soles of my feet!
What's the big deal. I'm sorry but my husband watched me push out two babies, six minutes apart. Me changing a tampon is nothing.
I don't understand what the big deal is. Can not relate to all the "NO!!" comments.
Poo is still poo whether it comes from your nearest and dearest or the filthiest lice infested hobo, they both smell the same, and it aint fragrant... so yeah, "No"..
Load More Replies...Oh hell no. We got a rule - we pee and poop in solitude. Healthy for both sides.
I can honestly say this HAS happened a few times, usually if we're out of town in a hotel and there's limited space and timeframes. We don't plan it, but hubby has a good attitude towards menstruation. :-)
She is recording his loud snoring to play back next time he complains about HER snoring.
His phone is on the table beside the remote so that must be her taking a picture of him
It's Saturday and she's looking at the list she made of things for him to do...
There's absolutely NOTHING in the drawing to indicate that. What it does indicate is that he is napping, and she is taking a photo.
Load More Replies...Haha. I think many here didn't notice that both have different shapes in their connectors; though, they perfectly match. That's what relationship are.
She's an inny and he's an out. So.....He puts his plug in her socket?
My wife was looking forward to going gray, but she's going silver instead. It's gorgeous.
Well...I didn't want to dye my hair, but when I started having white hairs before 25, I quickly changed my mind. This isn't natural and beautiful at all at that age, but nothing I can do about bad genes, all women in my family had gone silver at an early age. But I am still against hair dye, as it smells awful, so I use henna instead.
Load More Replies...If your partner loves you, not a single hair you sprout will matter.
My absolute day changer! Everything's right in the world after he brushes my hair.
I love to brush my wife's hair right before bed every night have done so every night for 27 years except when I was in the hospital
Oh heavens help me, that feels orgasmic when people brush your hair for you.
I Love tto brush my wife's long, think hair. Below her butt. Takes an hour every morning. But it's great.
I've never had a man (in a romantic sense) brush my hair. I'd love it.
My husband loves to brush my hair. Prob because he started balding young and shaves his head. 😂
One of my favorite times is to hold Sharon in my arms. What do you think?
This is how I great my husband almost on the daily. Love being HELD, I feel so home..
My little girls would somehow wrap themselves around my legs when I got home! Nothing would do but getting on the floor with them to play. They do this with their little ones, now!
As someone covered in tattoos I love that some of these couples are too...
Me too! I have lots of tatts, piercings and dye my hair various colours and my husband loves me just the way I am!
Load More Replies...My question, why is she sitting on the counter in her panties?! Just saying.
The Alchemist by Paolo Coelho is a wonderful read and very short too. One of my favourites.
No, I will not disturb you, my love. I'll just keep eating the popcorn till the movie's over...
And you wonder why she wants 5o rewatch the movie a 100 times, she's never seen the ending.
every dinner the first one to find a hair would shout out, it's okay, I got it.
Awww...my husband said he missed my hair everywhere when if fell out from chemo....now it is back and I am healthy and he is annoyed with it again :)
Omg thats sweet :) and i am really happy that you are healthy again ❤️
Load More Replies...Mine are everywhere else, but at least not in the food, I always tie my hair when cooking. Even if one manages to fall in the food somehow, I usually notice and take it out, as they are quite long and hard to miss.
same! can't stand people with long hair who don't put it in a bun to cook! I have long hair myself and always paranoid some will end up in the food
Load More Replies...Mine are loooong and purple, I can't even fake denial. But I can't figure out why his BODY hair is everywhere, so I guess we're even. (I married a yeti.)
Load More Replies...And it's absolutely breathtaking when you get out into areas where there is no light pollution keeping you from SEEING them
Load More Replies...I envy you. 10 yrs here, and the passion is gone. It's quite upsetting.
Load More Replies...Great movie. And like the brushing, I love to wash her hair. Two to three times a week.
I would LOVE it if my husband washed my hair for me like this - but no books in the bath - ruins the book!
This should be opposite, lol. Drives me nuts that he doesn't clean up his sink.
I know that they say "read my lips", but "read my t... " erm, well, was unknown to me.
I think this means that he can read her like a book lol
Load More Replies...I think its more like 'reading her like an open book' or something of a sort
Wouldn't it be the other way round?? Men are the ones who often neglect personal grooming.
This is disgusting... It's not a matter of being in a longterm relationship, but a matter of your personal hygiene. Eww.
In our house, it's the man feet with the sharp nails and the lady legs with the bloody scratches.....
Honestly people, stop with that "eww" :D I am pretty sure it's just exaggerated in the picture. It's how she imagines her nails might be because of the scratches on her husband's legs... You don't really think the guy is bleeding, right? :D It's just how it is pictured for better understanding. ;)
No matter how often i cut my toe nails, it still are sharp. and file doesnt help. I just got annoyng sharp nails form . My every sock have holes and my husband got scraches on its legs.
mine are like that as well, but the scratches are on my own legs :D I just scratch my one leg with my other one while I am sleeping :D :D :D
Load More Replies...Pay back for all the times you get her hair in you mouth/face. Hehehe.
I'm the girl on the right, but not out of disgust. Rather loneliness lol
I know what the girl on the right is thinking Forever alone and this is a bit awkward.
My girl isn’t much about showing PDA ... but sometimes I feel it so strongly 😢 😔
As I was leaving old St. Ives, You met me and seven wives, Six of them think I'm divine, The seventh one of course is mine.
I've had a forever alone moment like this woman. Prior to meeting my husband I took myself on a holiday, and out to a fancy restaurant. It was bad enough that after finding me a spot among the sea of couples, the waiter removed the extra cutlery set from the other side of the table, but then I heard gasps and whispers in my general direction. I turned to see the young lady in the seat directly behind mine had a young man on his knee beside her, proposing. She said yes, everyone clapped, I wanted to sink into the floor.
New game. Take the couples from Amanda Oleander's pictures and place them in different settings. First up, this couple. They're on a bus. NOW look at them. Whoa, this old dude is just sniffing her hair.....yep, you're right stellermatt, way creepy. Also, what's up with the painting in the background? Amanda Oleander? Weigh in here love. We're loving your stuff though. Good fun.
Load More Replies...When you first let her watch Dr. Who and she sees a Weeping Angel
I HATE those damn things! I get creeped out every time I see a normal angel statue now! 😂
Load More Replies...Or also when you just showed her Harry Potter and she first sees the death eaters or Lord Voldemort! Egag!
My wife, always cold. I'm in shorts and no shirt and she's wearing flannel PJs and a blanket and sitting right next to for more warmth.
I hadn't noticed until you pointed it out. I don't know why some of us are ashamed of it. It's what a woman's body does to keep it's treasure naturally clean, is all.
Load More Replies...why black bar toons? that makes no sense... is the FCC around??
It just looks like she's got a little pad on perhaps for incontinence
Where's the dirty underwear in this one? She looks naked to me, just out of the shower.
what a sweetheart. But honey clean up your panty liner, just gross.
Underwear get dirty. It's kinda their whole purpose.
Load More Replies...Not sure what’s up with those parking meters? A bagel and schmeer sure would hit the spot right now!
They can't park there... they don't fit in those tiny spaces!!
Load More Replies...yeah I am guilty of removing eyelashes... then you blow it away and make a wish!
Keep that up and you will be wishing for eyelashes. After a while, they don't grow back!
Load More Replies...I had a G/f that used to "groom" my eyebrows cause I have some crazy hair in them that go totally different directions from the rest. She eventually gave up cause she said well every time I remove the one I think is guilty another one starts doing it.
This is so us... I'm still talking while he's dozing off, not out of boredom but because I seem to wait until the end of the day to get all talky.
Look at her finger. She's found a stray eyelash, and wants him to make a wish, and blow it away.
Load More Replies...I think they're drowning in love. Like drooling, head in the clouds type of thing.
...err...they make each other's mouths water? It's like a game of Catchphrase 😂
He has come to the table without pants on and she does not care, that is love.
I think the look in their eyes indicates that they're about to copulate on the counter LOL
Sitting on the counter looks cute, but is super impractical and unhygienic ... ah well.
I remember being so in love I just wanted to climb inside his skin.
Load More Replies...I think it's something like 'touching each other's hearts' maybe? Or souls?
I love those little moments when you look into his eyes and just see love. Aww...
I am confused on this...is this two men? or is the girl a bearded lady or what what what
I have chronic insomnia, and SLEPT last night after being up for...over 48 hours. Yeah. It blows goats, and sucks moldy boulders through bendy straws. And there he is on the other side of the bed, sound asleep. And the dog, asleep. Some days I growl at him when he asks if I've slept. Other days, I just say no. It happens.
Load More Replies...I LOVE that candy bar! ChocoLove Dark chocolate with cherries and almonds! The wrapper looks like it has stamps on it. My hubby definitely does this on occasion.
ew. not against it but can't wrap my mind around wanting to be a fully hairy woman.
Whats to wrap your mind around? It's not any different than not having hair.
Load More Replies...That's true love right there... alternative chick with natural hairy pits. I don't let mine get QUITE that long, though.
I love the feeling of smooth skin and the ability to feel how soft it is most man I dated always commented on how soft my skin was. I also agree with the fact that it tends to make you look more masculine having lots of hair on your body. And when I don't shave my underarms I noticed they get very sweaty and stinky so I'm for the Shaving although I know some European women prefer the natural look it's not for me.
Last I checked, it wasn't Supposed to be long enough to braid. Pit hair gathers so much odor and do many oils that seep into the hair shaft. No amount of scrubbing will eliminate it either. It's just as natural to have long nails and long hair, yet I bet you that you cut those off. So f*****g shave. Disgusting. Just because it's natural doesn't mean anything.
Yea, but the girl can leave hers on, especially if they are knee-highs!
Load More Replies...I'm surprised at a lot of people saying some of this stuff is gross, maybe my husband and I are just super comfortable with each other, these are just things everyone does, I don't see why people try and hide it from one another. Sort of hard when you live with someone!
The art style makes the majority of these situations so gross, when they really aren't.
exactly what I was thinking- they put a great diversity of straight couples but no gays or lesbians.
Load More Replies...I really like these, and I like the style--refreshing. My only complaint is that the post is captioned "Brutally Honest" and "Unspoken Side"--I'd like to see fewer click-bate cliches
I like the fact that there are different couples, but would be nice to see some non-traditional couples.
I'm surprised at a lot of people saying some of this stuff is gross, maybe my husband and I are just super comfortable with each other, these are just things everyone does, I don't see why people try and hide it from one another. Sort of hard when you live with someone!
The art style makes the majority of these situations so gross, when they really aren't.
exactly what I was thinking- they put a great diversity of straight couples but no gays or lesbians.
Load More Replies...I really like these, and I like the style--refreshing. My only complaint is that the post is captioned "Brutally Honest" and "Unspoken Side"--I'd like to see fewer click-bate cliches
I like the fact that there are different couples, but would be nice to see some non-traditional couples.
